Change Reaction: Withdrawal

People react to change with some version of one of four reactions: anger, sadness, confusion and withdrawal. In the past editions, we’ve taken a close look at anger, sadness and confusion.  In today’s Lightning Byte we’re going to take a closer look at the change reaction of withdrawal.
“A brain tumor.  Wow.  I didn’t see that [...]

Change Reaction: Sadness

People react to change with some version of one of four reactions: anger, sadness, confusion and withdrawal. In today’s Lightning Byte we’re going to take a closer look at the change reaction of sadness and worry.
“If men are honest, everything they do and everywhere they go is for a chance to see women. There were [...]

What’s Your Reaction to Change?

Reaction to Change

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Poof. Quicker than you can say Dancing With The Stars, I went from DVR powerful to DVR powerless. All of the movies waiting to be watched? Gone. The season premieres of the hottest new shows. Up in digital smoke. The ability [...]

Resistance to Change: The Three Roots

I popped open the festive red envelope and pulled out the greeting card. Staring back at me was a dumpy, overweight, tired old woman with a sagging face wrapped in hog-like jowls. Clad in a frumpy sweater-skirt combo and sporting a mass of frizzy, out-of-control grey hair, her bosoms dangled around her knees [...]

Are You Moving to the Music of Change?

“Music’s alright, John, but you’ll never make a living out of it.”
John Lennon’s Aunt Mimi Smith
“We don’t like their sound, and guitar music is on the way out.”
Decca Recording Company rejecting the Beatles, January 1962
“They were very scruffy characters – but they had a beat in their music which I liked…I got [...]

Do You Talk Too Much?

By Marty Nemko
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Ever listen to someone who, long after you’ve spaced out, continued to blab on? What did you think of that person? Probably self-absorbed and interpersonally clueless. Being long-winded is a sure route to career failure, indeed life failure.
Of course, no one thinks they’re perceived as talking too much, otherwise they [...]

Bully Impossible

“I need some serious help.”
The nondescript email flagged me down like a stranded motorist on a deserted highway.
“It could take at least an hour just to get through the background and resolving the problem.”
My curiosity snapped to attention. An hour? Must be a humdinger of a gnarly mess.
“I don’t know what to do, but [...]

Four Signs a Relationship Is Failing

This article is reprinted with permission by Talent Smart.
A new relationship – whether personal, romantic, or professional – is a lot like buying a new car. Driving it off the lot is pure bliss. As you look around, you can scarcely take it all in. Everything smells, sounds, and looks terrific. You coast through weeks [...]

Whip the Workplace Weasel

Back channeling. Double talk. Political puffery. Bouncing decisions.
Last week several Type A straight shooting, get-it-done clients were at their wits’ end with the exact same problem. A passive aggressive co-worker – the weasel of the workplace – was playing and winning a shell game of slimy shenanigans.
Why was the weasel winning?
Simple. [...]

The Type A Patience Pendulum

Admit it. You’ve heard it your whole Type A life. “You need to be more patient.”
Patience is hard for turbocharged Type A’s to perfect. It tends to swing on a pendulum between bulldozer and balloon.
Type A’s typically do need to be more patient, but over-correcting your impatience can crash your credibility into [...]