The Swamp

Last week, I discussed how invisible grief can be a game changer for highly accomplished Type A leaders.  Invisible grief shows up as inexplicable indecision, inconsistency and disinterest.  To learn the five warning signs that you may be wrestling with invisible grief, take a look at last week’s post.
In today’s post, we’re going to take […]

No More Pouty Lip Tantrums

OK, I’ve just got to rant…
If you’re a Type A tog dog who’s leaving a trail of splintered relationships behind you, please don’t kvetch and cry foul if your colleagues don’t bend over backwards to help you improve your relationship with them. I don’t want to hear anymore of these pouty lip,foot stomping […]

Don’t Take the Bait

There it is. Dangling in front of your nose like a scrumptious morsel of self-indulgence. Taunting you with its seductive aroma.
Revenge.
Righteous indignation.
Blistering anger.
Backstabbing retaliation.
Intimidation.
Sarcasm.
Criticism.
Arrogance.
Cold indifference.
Passive aggressive sabotage.
What’s your poison of choice when someone pushes your hot buttons?
Make no mistake. Nothing makes a smart and talented Type A superstar look like a donkey’s backside […]

Untangle the Triangle

Backstabbing. Blindsided. Back channeling.
What do all of these nasty situations have in common? Triangular communication.
Triangles create drama, destroy trust and sabotage relationships.
Let me prove it to you.
Your sixteen-year old asks you if she can spend Saturday with her friends. You tell her no and remind her […]

When Perfect Goes Bad

Type A’s are notorious for setting a high bar and then pushing themselves and everyone else over the edge. This is especially true for Type A’s who have been bitten by the perfect bug.
Have you been bitten by the perfect bug? Check out these 10 signs and symptoms.
1. You believe it’s important […]

10 Type A Positive Attitude Traps

No one argues louder or longer than a Type A who is positive she is right. I’ve been asked to clean up more Type A train wrecks caused by Type A positive attitudes than I can count.
Do the sniff test on your attitudes.
Are you stuck in these Type A positive […]

Eyeball the Rules

Stuck in a squabble? Hog tied by feuding frustration? Languishing at loggerheads?
Few things throw a kink in your kabobs quicker than a never-ending, teeth grinding tussle between two Type A warriors.
Bring the bloody battle to a truce. Drill below the dueling to reveal the real bone of contention.
One of […]

Responsibility – Authority = Train Wreck

A reader writes:
“The train wreck analogy is an accurate description of my reality. As a supervisor, I am squarely in the midst of “do more with less.” Any suggestions on dealing with situations for which you are responsible but feel you have little authority to change?”
I have to rant. One the stupidest things a […]

Sidestep the Landmine

Ever step in a big pile of dog poop?
If so, then you know that “What just happened?!” feeling is quickly followed by a voice screaming in your head, “Why didn’t you watch where you were stepping!!??”
The same thing happens at work when you unwittingly stumble upon a political landmine. A nasty “What […]

Whip the Weasel

Back channeling. Double talk. Political puffery. Bouncing decisions.
Must be springtime. The weasels are out in full force.
Last week several Type A straight shooting, get-it-done clients were at their wits’ end with the exact same problem. A passive aggressive co-worker – the weasel of the workplace – was playing […]